CAN'T SLEEP? ME TOO. i'm an infj

Tuesday, September 11, 2018

Is falling asleep difficult for anyone else because recently it's been has been a chore for me.

Falling asleep shouldn't be a difficult thing to do but sometimes I have nights where I am tossing and turning because of my mind being wide awake with thoughts. Those kinds of nights are annoying! A night like that isn't a problem once and a while but when I start to notice having troubles falling asleep night after night, I dread bedtime.

I wonder how do INFJs sleep

INFJs are known to be heavy thinkers and highly productive people. Lot's of INFJs view sleep as a waste of time. Thus, they put off sleep because they want more time in their day but in my experience, one can't be as productive as one wishes if they don't get at least some sleep.

Shutting off my thoughts, as an INFJ, is virtually impossible. Meditation is intimidating and sleep can be just as dawning. Times at which my mind is alone to thought can be intense. Emotions start to bubble up to the surface, all the uncomfortable situations I've been in replay in my mind, and the worries in my mind become mini screenplays.

O.O This isn't fair!!

Unlike normal human beings who seem to fall asleep within seconds, I am awake for what feels like forrrreveerrr. Talk about bedtime anxiety. Bedtime anxiety explained: being anxious about going to bed. That might be a little dramatic...

But, I've figured out how to get myself asleep!

I'm not talking about what one should do before bed like eating no sugar, or food, reading, getting off your phone an hour before bed, hot teas, and magic potions. Those things are fine but I don't think they help the mind wandering/staying up with your thoughts all night problem. I'm talking about when you head on the pillow, your lights are off, and you're getting into a comfortable position to sleep or if you're like me think.

Here's what I've been finding works for me. When my heads on the pillow and I find myself wandering through my thoughts I consciously redirect my thoughts. 

Redirecting my thoughts means that I am actively changing the conversation in my mind to something I want to think about.  Preferably something that doesn't cause anxiety. When I catch myself thinking about that awkward time or wondering what like tomorrow will look like I stop myself and redirect my thoughts.

I actively think about a made up scenario or a happy memory. This means that for a while I am thinking about what is happening in my happy scene. Thinking things like I am walking to the room and I see someone who makes me happy, they are smiling, and I walk to them... My INFJ thoughts will sometimes come back into my mind while I am thinking about a happy scene so I once again redirect to the happy scene.

TO RECAP: Things that keep you up, redirect your thoughts and think about the happy scene, intrusive thoughts, back to the happy scene, repeat. Until you fall asleep.

It may sound like a lot of work but once your body gets tired you'll end up dreaming instead of thinking about that happy scene.

Do you have trouble falling asleep?
What kinds of things do you do to sleep once your heads on the pillow?

18 comments

  1. I’m an INFP (or wait, am I an INFJ??? *existensial crisis*), but the struggle is reeeeall. Usually I try to think about a calming scene from one of my stories, or (yes, this is weird) role-play one of my characters falling asleep. *shrugs* It works!

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    1. LOL I've tested between the two of those before! Nicole, that's not weird to do at all! I wish I had stories to think of while I was falling asleep. That sounds wonderful!

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  2. THANK YOU for this. I have had the hardest time going to sleep lately, even though I have to get up early for school. This tip is going to keep me from ever being Grumpy Morning Rose again. ;)

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    1. My pleasure! Sleep is often a hit or miss. Ohhh, I do hope this helps because no one loves having mornings where you don't feel great. Thanks for commenting!

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  3. I use to be terrible at sleeping and it would take me at least an hour to fall asleep. It still does take me a while especially around other people but it's for some reason gotten a lot better.

    Nabila | Hot Town Cool Girl

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    1. I'm glad that it's gotten better because an hour of trying to sleep feels a lot longer than it actually is! Sleeping around other people is odd haha I get that!! (and if people snore it's gonna take me a whole lot longer too)

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  4. Depends on the day and my stress level. Lately I've been so exhausted I fall asleep fast.

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    1. So many factors to sleep!! It's crazy!!

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  5. As an INFJ, I relate to this wayyy too much.

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  6. I'm an INFJ, but I'm also a Ravenclaw, so I have both productive & procrastination tendencies:')
    twinklexthoughts.blogspot.com

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    1. Ravenclaw as in Hogwarts? I have some procrastination in me as well. I gotcha! Thanks for commenting Macey!

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  7. Ah, I have this problem sometimes too! It is so annoying, because I am a total grump without sleep. But I like your solution. I'll have to try it next time. Thanks for sharing! :)

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    1. I think we all are! I don't know what I'd do if someone told me I'd never get a good nights rest again. Thanks for your thoughts Jessica!

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  8. your blog is so lovely. just saying.
    also i. love. this.
    i literally have two extremes- i either fall asleep the second my head hits the pillow or i'm tossing and turning all night and never really fall into a deep sleep. there's like no in between.

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    1. <3 Thank you so much! That makes me heart become mushy inside.
      I don't have an in between as well and I think that's since I notice when I am taking a while to sleep where as other times I'm to tired to even remember.

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  9. I LOVE your blog. <3 It takes me some time to fall asleep, but I've gotten better.
    Malia|SimplyMaliaK.com

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    1. Thank you so much!! AW. <3 I'm glad sleeping has gotten better for you! Cheers to that.

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