Wednesday, January 3, 2018

2018 GOALS

                                                           I've always had a love-hate relationship with setting New Year's Goals. In fact, THIS IS MY FIRST NEW YEAR'S GOALS POST ON MY BLOG, EVER.

I have avoided making new year's goals in the past because I was afraid of failure. I didn't want to be the person who set goals at the start of the year and didn't accomplish any of them in the end. Another thing that had me on edge when it came to goals was that I only saw people setting them at the start of the year. I didn't understand why you couldn't set goals at any other given time in the year. If I wanted to change why couldn't I start at any given time? New Year's goals didn't make sense to me.

By challenging myself to set New Year's goals this year, I have learned a couple of things about goals. First, failing isn't an option when you set goals that are friendly. Before I didn't set goals because I thought I would fail if I set them. But because I have used friendly words like less and more the goals I set are easier to achieve. (Ex. Instead of saying, "this year I won't eat any sugar" I said, "this year I will eat less sugar.") Problem failure fixed!!

As for why we set goals at the beginning of the year, I think it has to do a lot with reflection. At the end of the year, it is easier to reflect on what was accomplished and what wasn't. I feel more motivated to start goals because a new number feels like a clean slate. The New Year is a convenient time to think about our lives which is why making goals at that time works.


My 2018 GOALS are to...

Use the word "really" less. This goal is last minute since I thought of it a few days ago. I was writing in my journal and I noticed how many times I wrote the really down! The word made me sound less sophisticated than I wanted to sound. Really sounds like a teenager that uses the word like in every sentence. No thanks!

Consume less sugar. Sugar is the devil. Sugar is the devil. SUGAR IS THE DEVIL. It really is. Other than sugar tasting amazing there is no benefit to eating sugar. Added sugars are bad for you. To optimize my health I am going to be eating less sugar.

Strengthen my relationship with God. Having a relationship with God takes a lot of work but I want to become closer to God this year. I would like to read the bible more often, pray every day, and invite God into my life more often. I haven't been the best at doing these things in the past but I want to change that this year. God is everything and I want to show him that I am willing to work at a better relationship with Him. To indulge in my faith in God will better my life.

Write more often. I have been journaling for the past last months pretty consistently. I have been enjoying putting pen to paper and writing about my day and exploring different thoughts that are in my mind. This year I want to keep writing in my journal! Writing short stories is also something I want to do more often too. The class I took on writing flash non-fiction has really opened my eyes to how powerful short stories are and can be. I would love to become better at writing those.

Summarize each month of the year in a post. In 2016 I did monthly goals and in 2017 I was lazy and did nothing but this year I want to write monthly wrap-up posts in order to remember events of the year better. I am thinking of putting in some of the things I did that month, along with a few journal excerpts, and music I liked to listen to that month in the post.

42 comments:

  1. This was such a great post! I really enjoyed reading through your goals. I've been writing more often lately and I'm really enjoying it! I had forgotten how much I loved journaling. Looking forward to your future blog posts! xoxo

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    1. Thank you so much for reading it!! Writing is really something once you get into it. I hope you write more! <3

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  2. Great goals! I know you can achieve all of them :) Wishing you a happy 2018!

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  3. I like those goals :)
    I'm a lot like you, where I never wanted to make new years resolutions because I actually set goals throughout the year too. but I, actually realizing how much I like them. Im such an introspective person so being able to reflect on tangible goals I made and actual progress makes me feel accomplished.

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    1. Glad to know I'm not the only one who thinks like this. Did you end up making any New Year's goals? I hope you did!

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  4. Yes!! I like how you said "the New Year is a convenient time to think about our lives which is why making goals at that time works." That's so true!

    Good luck with your goals! (I'm looking forward to seeing your monthly recaps)

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    1. I'm glad you agree with some of what was said. Thank you!

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  5. These are such fabulous goals! I say really way too much, as well... And also like. I totally need to cut back on sugar. Although I typically look healthy, I don't always feel so great.

    ~ Ella Marie

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    1. I've noticed I don't way to often! (Eat too much sugar and say really) Thanks so much for reading<3

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  6. These are really good goals, I haven't made any for myself yet. I hate setting myself up to fail.

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    1. Thank you! Set some friendly small goals(:

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  7. YOU ARE THE CUTEST BUG AND I ALWAYS LOVE YOUR PICTURES.
    my goodness.

    and yes, I totally love these goals. Hard things, yes- but we have faith in you V!!
    xoxoxo

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    1. EPPPP! THANK YOU. I try so hard when it comes to blog photos. Thanks for the support, Elissa!

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  8. These goals are so good!! I AGREE SUGAR IS EVIL. I just seem to have no self control, I hate it so much :( Also looking forward to the monthly recaps! I did that last year, and it was super fun to see what all happened within one month.

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    1. I too have little self control when it comes to sugar but I'm trying!! Yes! I noticed the monthly wrap-ups on your blog and loved them.

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  9. I always use the word "really" way too much as well-- but unlike in my writing, I use it much frequently when I'm speaking, especially in a group setting. xD And yes to cutting back sugar!!! I hope you have a wonderful 2018, though!

    xoxo Abigail Lennah | ups & downs

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    1. I don't use it as much when I speak. Thanks for reading and sharing a comment! <3

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  10. I love your goals - I also cannot wait to hear about each month this 2018. Good luck Vanessa!

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    1. I'm glad to hear your looking forward to it!

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  11. Lovely goals Vanessa! I totally get what you mean about not setting goals due to being afraid of failure, which is why I've learned to set realistic goals as well, but I totally believe in you and that you'll be able to accomplish your goals! <3

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    1. You are so sweet!! Thank you for being honest and encouraging!!

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  12. AHHHH I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THAT PICTURE OF YOU, VANESSA! <3 It's so lovely, and so is this post! I couldn't agree more with you on the whole "new year resolutions". I used to do them then I stopped because after a few days it was like "what's the point?"

    But I decided to do it again this year, except with smaller ones. Well, small-ish ones. I have my bigger goals and then smaller resolutions. I made some goals for myself toward the end of 2017 and it really worked out for me, so I feel like I can actually do it. I just need to remind myself to not get overwhelmed, which is something I am terrible with. >.<

    Your goals sound absolutely perfect! And I know you can meet them. <3 I should probably put the sugar thing on my list as well. *awkward chuckle*

    xx Kenzie

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    1. THANKS! I'm glad you enjoyed this post. Making content that others can connect with is always a goal of mine on my blog. I'm wishing you the absolute best with your goals this year. I know you can accomplish them. Thanks for commenting<3

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  13. YOU'RE SO PRETTY!!!
    I love this!! I love the idea of making "friendly" goals--super smart!! <33

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    1. THANK YOU! These friendly goals are going well so far!

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  14. All these goals sound great Vanessa. I wish you the best of luck with them all! x

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    1. Anna, thanks!! Best to you this year too.

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  15. I am big fan of friendly goals! I feel like their a lot more flexible, and in my opinion, easier to accomplish because they don't put this overwhelming amount of pressure on you at the beginning of the year. I wish you the best of luck with all of your goals Vanessa <3

    Kathlyn | Kathlyn's Korner

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    1. I agree completely! (That should be obvious at this point haha) thank you for reading! I appreciate it.

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  16. Those are such good goals! I've been thinking I ought to expand my vocabulary and not use 'really' and 'very' so much too. All the best with your goals, and be encouraged: God says those who seek Him with all their heart will find Him! Thanks also for sharing your experience with setting goals - I relate. Happy 2018! xx

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    1. Thank you Jessica. I love the encouragement you have given regarding finding God. You are the best! As always, thank you for the support. <3

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  17. I'm right with you - I avoid creating goals because of a fear of failure. I already have enough trouble making unrealistic goals for single days and ending them with a sense of failure. It's definitely something I need to work on.

    I love your goal of strengthening your relationship with God. That is so important! I pray that you'll be especially successful with that one =)

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    1. Goals are tricky but they are a good goal to work on :P

      Thank you! So far it's been going pretty well!

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  18. i usually try to keep my goals pretty open ended and vague so there's no chance of failure! i think adding numbers to things makes it so easy to fail.

    i definitely need to try and eat less sugar this year too...but damnit WHY DOES CAKE TASTE SO MUCH BETTER THAN APPLES?!

    wishing you all the best for 2018 my lovely! ♥

    katie. xx lacoconoire.com

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    1. Numbers really are so defeating. Haha they are a powerful thing! LOL Cake is sweeter than apples? I don't know. I wish healthier things were easier to eat! (;

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  19. I can definitely agree that making goals manageable and less vague is the way to make them achievable and avoid failure! I am sure you will be able to meet all of yours with ease. I am also trying to write more this year, even if it's just a couple of sentences in my journal. Also, as a tip, natural sugars from fruit work as a fantastic alternative to processed and help diminish sweet cravings while delivering amazing health benefits!

    maria | http://whatismaria.com

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    1. A couple of sentences is better than nothing:) That's how I have been going about journalist. I have been pretty consistent for a while now which is nice. Thanks for the reading!

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  20. I love this. I definitely want to consume less sugar and write more. And lose weight and eat healthier.

    http://bysheene.blogspot.com

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    1. I'm glad that you enjoyed reading my goals! I think it's really important to have them.

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