Wednesday, September 13, 2017

Kinder by Caring

After I had met some people who struggled with mental illnesses I found myself wanting to be there for more people. I never understood how much of an impact mental illnesses have on someone's lives until I met people who struggle with anxiety, depression, eating disorders and other mental illnesses. These people opened my eyes to what having a mental illness is like and I am so blessed to have had that opportunity.

Mental illnesses make it impossible for people to stay present in their lives. They make everyday tasks into huge challenges so when someone has to deal with a lot of little tasks everyday one can become very overwhelmed. Staying present in their lives becomes a very hard thing for people to do when they are preoccupied with little tasks that become so much bigger.

Imagine living your life with worries and fears. Fixating over what people are thinking and being taken down by the thoughts in your head. That's a hard way to live. Living in the moment completely vanishes because you are living in the past or the present. It's a hard life to live.

It's important to show compassion to every human being because you never know what they are going through. It's hard for someone to openly admit they are struggling so by being there for someone you can provide them with a little bit of support to make their day easier. Different people will need different kinds of support so just because one thing doesn't work does not mean you should give up and move on. It's about treating everyone like friends so they feel comfortable and welcomed in this world.

Care for others by:
-Telling people if they need anything you will try your best
-Being friendly
-Offering a listening ear
-Sending little notes of encouragement
-Small acts of kindness
-Giving out hugs
-Respecting boundaries
-Telling people how much they mean to you

Suicide is one of the big topics when it comes to mental health but there is still a huge part of society that has a hard time talking about it. All mental illnesses can lead to suicide and that is a crazy thing. Simply said, show your support to every human being and you'll be able to help prevent people from taking their lives. It's all about being kind to one another. 

Don't forget about yourself. Sometimes we put so much focus on other people and things we forget to check in with how we are doing mentally. It's important to take care of your mental health too! Don't neglect yourself. Every once in a while do a check in to see how you are doing. 

Self-care check-in questions:
-How have I been feeling the past few days on a scale from 1-10?
-Have there been things on my mind that are drowning my thoughts?
-How have I been sleeping recently?
-Am I taking care of my personal needs?
-Do I spend time with positive people?

We all matter so much in this world so stay with us and make the world a kinder place. Care for one another and yourself so that we can strive as a community of human beings.


This post was inspired and written in dedication to Elissa. She reached out to a few other bloggers and myself to tell us about how important the topic of staying is in relationship to suicide. I was honored that she gave me the chance to help spread the message. I admire that she put all this together to get her message out! If you take a look at her blog, Letters to Jayna, you will find other works like this one as well as Elissa's story!


  1. Great tips - and a wonderful topic to be speaking about! Love the awareness :)

  2. This. This is just so important. To remember. To consider. To know.
    There are people, so many people that we don't even know who could be waiting for one person to tell them that they are not alone, and that they have a reason to live, and we need to be the ones giving them the reason.
    I am so glad you posted this, Vanessa!

    I have a friend who struggles with suicidal thoughts. I try my best to make him feel better, and be there for him, but it's really depressing for me too because I feel what other people feel very deeply.

    I think we all need to band together. Those who are there for the ones who don't want to stay, and those who stay for them. We all need to band together and help each other because none of us can do it on our own.
    None of us is strong enough.

    Anyway, didn't mean to ramble on so! Thanks again for sharing this, dear!

    1. Ramble on! You rambles are really important. Your friend is blessed to have you in their lives telling them it'll be okay. That is sweet of you to do. I think you would love the other posts on Elissa's page! Take a look at them! Thank you for sharing this!

    2. Thank you. I just hope and pray it's enough to make him stay.
      I read them, and I love them! Elissa is so strong and such a beautiful witness.

    3. You are in my prayers as well! She really is.

  3. Beautiful post is beautiful. I really think giving a listening ear is the most important thing we can all do. <3

    1. It is really important! Thank you for reading!

  4. Absolutely, I completely agree. You have articulate all these wonderfully!

    - Skylar (Skywriting)

  5. so so beautiful!! i have had a lot of people in my life with suicidal thoughts and it is really hard to relate to them when they are not Christians bc they cant see the hope that i have

    1. I understand how that would make it harder to connect with them. I'm sure you can find a way.


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