Friday, August 11, 2017

Forget The Boys

Start a Relationship with Yourself! Did you know that being in a relationship can be much more rewarding than being in a relationship with someone else? There are so many reasons that being in a relationship with yourself is the ultimate way to go! But how does one start a relationship with themselves? To put it simply you have to start treating yourself better. This means paying attention to yourself as well as being more positive towards who you are. Like every relationship, you will have struggles but you will make it out stronger than before!

The first thing I had to do when I started a relationship with myself is forget about the men.* I was so obsessed with finding the one a few months ago that I forgot I could make myself happier than anyone could ever make me. I pushed aside the fantasies and started focusing more on how I can make myself happy. Of course, I still go around looking at pretty boys but I am not obsessive with my romantic fantasies. I advise anyone who is starting a relationship with themselves to put all eyes on themselves. 

If guys ask if I am an available date candidate I simply say no. I'm not single because I am in a relationship with myself. Once you feel confident about being in a relationship with yourself and the concept isn't as bizarre to you go ahead and tell people you're in a relationship with yourself. This line sounds very sophisticated. 
*or guys or boys. I feel like there is a huge difference between boys, guys, and men. However, they are all pretty dumb at times. Let's be honest girls!

You are now dating yourself. So treat yourself well and go on some dates! Going on dates with yourself is an essential element to growing in a relationship with yourself. Just like going on dates with other people help you to get to know the other person better, going on dates with yourself will help you get familiar with yourself. If you commit to learning about yourself while on these dates.

At first, it might be a little weird to go to a coffee shop with yourself and call it a date but I can promise you it will become less and less awkward as you start to do this more often. You can go to the park, on a walk, to lunch, or to coffee and call it a date! As long as you are having fun being with yourself, you're all good!

Now that you have devoted your time and attention to yourself start accepting who you are as a person. accepting yourself is all about being comfortable with yourself. This is done by spending time with yourself.

If you are feeling unmotivated there are lots of cute little pins on Pinterest about self-love. This is a super cute way to be inspired and motivated to love who you are. You can check out the board I started HERE.

Just like you would in any kind of relationship you need to give out compliments! I like to compliment myself on things I have done well and things I like about myself. If you are as dorky as I am you can leave cute little messages and notes that remind you of how wonderful you are around the house or your room! What is important to remember is that you are worthy of compliments. Give them out to yourself just like you would to an individual you like, remember this is all about you and learning to love who you are!

Example compliments to give yourself: You're a brilliantly talented cutie! That outfit you are wearing is super cute! You're so smart! I love the way you think! I like who you are as a person!

Falling in love with yourself can be just as hard as falling in love with someone else. It takes time and patients. Loving yourself is one of the biggest challenges you will ever come across but once you learn to love yourself you will never go back. Give yourself compliments and start to accept who you are as a person. Loving yourself is a huge part of being in a relationship with yourself. When you love yourself in a relationship you can grow more.

I can't tell you how much I have enjoyed being in a relationship with myself. There is something so freeing about it that I really love and I have also become more confident in who I am as a person because of my journey. To anyone who is thinking about growing in their relationship with themselves, go for it. You won't regret trying it out. Give yourself a chance just like I have!


  1. Such a good post! This was something that I wanted to do before I started seeing anyone. I saw my friends dating guys after guys and I was just there dating myself. I wanted to learn love myself and be okay with me. Now I have a relationship with myself and my boyfriend.

    Heidi |

    1. That's super sweet! I always feel like if I were to do this I would have to pay less attention to myself in order to allow time and attention for a possible boy friend.

  2. What an amazing post! Had to smile more and more while reading this, I am so happy that your journey lead to loving yourself and I'm also more motivated to keep on going my own path to self love!

  3. I am just happy to hear that you are more motivated to go on your own journey of self-love! It's a wonderful one!


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