Thursday, August 4, 2016

Be Like The Children

When did we become so isolated? 
So intrigued in our own little word and nobody else's?
Unable to say I need help.
Unable to say hello, how are you?
Unable to ask your neighbor if they're okay.
Unable and isolated
and
Being use to being on our own.

Unlike the children,
The children that know how to make friends with strangers.
The children that know when to ask for help.
The children that love being around people.
Living simple lives made easier by the ones around them.

When did we become so afraid to ask for help?
Thinking that if we did we would be seen as foolish.

We are accustom to growing up and being independent
as if being independent means you have it all together.
I have seen people who are independent who's lives are not together.

Do not be fooled.
Do not fall into the trap.
Do not give into society.
Society can be wrong.

It's okay to ask for help when you need it
It's okay to say hello, how are you.
It's okay to ask another if they need help.

Do not be afraid of not being independent; we all need help.

Be like the children.

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This is a topic I have been thinking a lot about recently- becoming independent at a young age. I see all my friends starting to do things on their own like driving, going places, leaving their families. Almost like they are being pressured to be independent like everyone else. I started thinking that there was something wrong with me because I am taking longer to become independent. I will be living with my mom through college, they won't. They drive, I don't. I started questioning it. 

Last night I had a conversation with my mother and sister that took some of these worried feeling from me. We simply talked about how society in America is so isolated and the young people become independent too quickly. She made a point that it is not this way in other countries. There was a lot we talked about that I won't get into since you can guess the rest from the words above.

What are your thoughts? Have you felt this way before?

24 comments:

  1. Ironically enough my friend Breanne and I just had this conversation. There seems to be an invisible line between sheltered and independence. America struggles to find a happy medium. For example when Breanne flew down here from a few states away my father told her mom that there would be a flight attendant going on the plane with her. She's only 16, so when my dad brought her to the airport and they told her she was too old for that they were very confused. Apparently children 12 and up can FLY ON THEIR OWN. I don't know about you but at 12 I still had my parents ordering my food for me at Wendy's.
    I also think school also plays a role in making kids grow up to fast. As excited as I am for college they started talking to Kathleen (my little sister who's going into 5th grade) about college.
    Apart from school I think it's something about young children coming home from school to an empty house because their parents are at work. They have to learn to cook and clean after themselves and it's sad because with the more responsibility put on them the more they'll grow up over all. Look at Social media, I came across this 11 year old account who used the words "flirtatious, sexy, trendy, athletic, and cool" to describe herself. She was using cuss words and captioning things with "f this I'm young and free." Where are these kids parents? I go into stores and see perfumes (targeted towards younger ages) with names like Vanilla Vibe and Follow Me Boy. It's disgusting.

    As far as independence goes for me, I am super excited to own my first car and start driving. Some freedom would be nice. However I don't think I'd want to just pick up and go the moment I turn 18. I am fortunate enough to come from a good home life; some of my friends want to leave as soon as they can because of their broken homes and not wanting to be in the environment anymore and they don't see this world as being any worse then the place they live in. Me having it good I'm hesitant to jump into this world because well have you seen the news lately?

    In conclusion you aren't alone, and there's not anything wrong with "taking longer to be independent." We need more people like you to take sit back and enjoy the chapter of life they're on a little before rushing off to start a new one.

    Thanks for stopping by and leaving the comments on my post, I replied but I wasn't sure if you hit the "notify me."

    Thanks for sharing,
    Hugs from Hayley xx

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    1. Thoseare great examples of what I am talking about happening in this days society. Children grow up so quickly. I can't believe that child over 12 can fly alone... Airports are huge and even my mom and I get lost in them. Imagine being 12 and riding alone.

      Even coming home to an emptyhouse after school too. although I grew up coming home alone I can see how crazy this really is!!

      Thank you or all the support and feedback on this issue! Much love <3

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  2. The poem is gorgeous! Don't feel like you have to do what your friends are doing, not following the crowd is being independent. We all have different strengths and abilities.
    Amy xx
    amyrosexoxo.blogspot.com

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    1. "Not following the crowd is being independent" I like that a lot. Thanks! (:

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  3. I just struggle with growing up in general, lol. All my friends are acting more and more like adults each day, which isn't necessarily a bad thing, but I still feel young (and I can be rather childish from time to time).
    The poem is beautiful. Keep up the beautiful writing <33

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    1. Sometimes I don't understand why young adults wouldn't want to still be children. Feeling young almost feels like your unstoppable!

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  4. This was such a great reminder, Vanessa! Just to take life for what it is, take time to smell the roses, and that it's okay to not know everything.
    <3 <3

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    1. Thanks! I've been feeling the need to hurry up with growing up when in reality I need to accept slowing down as a good thing.

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  5. This was beautiful, Vanessa. It's hard. I just turned sixteen, but I still feel like a child. I have friends going to college, most people I know can drive, etc. Yet here I am, planning to live at home when I go to college, and still unable to drive. I just don't feel ready yet, and I'm okay with that. It's a scary world, and quite frankly people seem to be growing up too quickly. I don't want to be one of those people.

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    1. Agreeing with you on everything here! And sameee! You never have to be like anyone YOU DO YOU! (:

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  6. I agree so, so much <3 People grow up too fast, and I think even when you're a child, that idea starts to get implanted in your head. Kids grow up with dreams of buying a car and "growing up" and all that, but I think we should learn to embrace every stage of life we're in. I'm probably not going to move out if and when I go to college, and yeah. I just want to live in the moment, and in light of eternity <3

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    1. They really do! Yes and it starts when you are little that's so true. All this insight is helping me so much! Thank you for reading and your comment. Keep living in that moment and embracing who you are!

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  7. This was beautiful, I think family is more important than Independence, and people are more important than success.

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  8. I nominated you for the Liebster award. :)

    xoxo
    Leah

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  9. I love this post, I totally agree with what you're saying here and I've been thinking this kind of thing lately too. Thank you for sharing this <3

    xx arushee

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    1. Thank you for reading! It's hard in today society.

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  10. You'd be surprised by the amount of times I've thought about this too. Independence is a wonderful thing, but so too is taking the time to meet people and appreciate the littlest of things <3 I really liked this post, Vanessa. It's easily one of your best xx

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    1. Thank you so much. It means a lot to hear that you like this. Support comes from knowing I am not the only one who feels this way.

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  11. Wow, I loved this and read it over and over again. Truly insightful and captivating words.

    - Vera from http://seveenteenhero.blogspot.fi

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    1. THANK YOU! Thanks for leaving a comment too!

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  12. Wow, yes. I relate to this a lot, and you expressed it well. I wish we were all like the children.. It's in the little things, like smiling at strangers, saying 'hello,' and being quick to make friends, where I notice the difference the most.

    Anyway, great post, Vanessa. Stay young! xx

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    1. Thank you! Children are just the best they make me not want to grow up!! We can be more like them for sure though!

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