Friday, February 26, 2016

Let's Talk About Death

Death, it's an uncomfortable topic for many young girls, but we need to start talking about it. As young adults, serious conversations such as this one will start to pop up. As young ladies, we need to be prepared for serious conversations, it's part of growing up.

I welcome you to the second post in my death series. 
To check out the first post in the series click the following link: The Thing About Death

There are a lot of aspects of death to talk about, so many things that I can't choose what to talk about first so I'm going to start with something simple.

What is death?

Death has a lot of meanings to different people, but the underlined fact is that someone will pass away. That's the sad part of death, someone you love and care for will die. This person might have been terminally ill, old, or it was a surprise and no one expected it. It happens.

Dying is part of life. Whether you like it or not you cannot live life with going through death. This is probably one of the hardest concepts to understand. How can death be part of life? Well, how can you live without knowing you will die? If you have any thoughts on this please comment.

As I write this I think about the three most recents deaths in my life. My grandma died unexpectedly, my dog was put to sleep so that she would not suffer, and Sara, the family friend was slowly dying from cancer. All these deaths have a very different reason for happening. The reason each loved one died was completely different from the rest. I have more experience in dealing with different death scenarios now which isn't a bad thing at all.

I think that dying after living isn't a bad way to finish life. Knowing there is a better place for you than the one you were just in sounds almost comforting. The scary thing is leaving the people behind. It is almost always harder for family members to cope with the death of a loved one than for the loved one to leave. This is something I will talk about in my next post.

I would love to hear your input on my somewhat confusing and definitely unorganized post. If there is something you would like me to talk about in a further post let me know by leaving a comment.

Much love,
Vanessa

12 comments:

  1. Right before logging into blogger to read this post, I was on facebook. my newsfeed was filled because a friends grandmother had died. and I was sad for the family. and so when the next thing I read was this. and I just had to nod my head.
    death is real. two of my grandparents are dead. and the woman that used to lead my bible study. although, the last one honestly hit me the most and I still wish she was here.
    thanks for talking about hard topics

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    1. My prayers are going toward the people you have lost in your life. I love it when God puts things I'm your life, like my blog post. You needed to think about it and it happened. Thanks for the comment. Love to hear I am helping.

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  2. I'm personally incredibly scared of death because it feels as if that person ceases to exist, and it's scary knowing that they were here and that was that. It's now gone. I think I'd rather live life pretending to be oblivious to the fact that I will die at the end of it.

    -M
    The Life of Little Me

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    1. Death can be scary but we also don't need to think about it all the time, just be aware of it. I can't imagine what'd it be like to live forever.

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  3. I personally love what Gandalf said, "Death is just another path, one that we all must take."

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  4. Thank you for posting this. My best friend lost her mom-in-law-to-be last week. My dog broke her leg and passed away over the summer and I lost my grandfather the fall before that. Some of these aren't "recent" (it's been a year since granddad passed) but after my friend lost their Mom it hit me that I feel as though I'm being surrounded by death. I had to realize that it's part of growing up. My other grandfather has cancer--they tell me it's not serious, but he's tired all the time. Our family cat is at the end of his life at 15 years old. It's really, really, really difficult and it's headbreaking, but Faith is right--death is real.

    I'm still trying to accept that death only hurts the people left behind. They're in a better place now, so why be sad?

    Of course, I'm still sad.

    Thank you, Vanessa.
    Love, Cassie

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    1. Sounds like your going through a huge grieving process, which isn't bad at all. It's hard to lose the people you love because of the fact they are gone. Like you said they are in a better place, don't be too sad. As for the people who are suffering right now and death comes to mind when you think of them, enjoy all the time you have with them.

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  5. It's kind of frightening for me having never lost anyone I've been close to. Sure, I've attended the funerals of relatives and connections, but never someone who I had really truly known. I know it's coming, and it's been close a few times. I don't want to be afraid, and this post is a small comfort. Thank you

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    1. It sounds scarier than it actually is, I promise. I'm here for you if you need to talk about what's going on, glad this post somewhat helps you out.(:

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  6. It scares me sometimes because I see people around me lose people who they love and I'm afraid it will happen to me. But (I'm a Christian) and I believe that if they believe in Jesus, they are in a better place than this broken world. Having said that, the grieving process is so incredibly difficult and I pray I won't have to experience the pain of losing someone to death.

    I'm strangely more okay with the concept of me dying than with losing someone I love. And it just brings to my mind a quote I saw somewhere "The reason why we cry when we lose someone is because we selfishly need that person to fulfil some emotional need." Although I don't agree with that completely, I feel like it hold a smidgen of truth. Because I feel like that's me sigh. <3 Thanks for posting this!

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    1. "A better place than this broken world" I like how you phased this accurate sentence. They will be in the arms of God.

      I understand where you are coming from when you say that It'd be better to die yourself than lose someone you love. You're not alone in saying that.

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