Wednesday, September 13, 2017

Kinder by Caring



After I had met some people who struggled with mental illnesses I found myself wanting to be there for more people. I never understood how much of an impact mental illnesses have on someone's lives until I met people who struggle with anxiety, depression, eating disorders and other mental illnesses. These people opened my eyes to what having a mental illness is like and I am so blessed to have had that opportunity.

Mental illnesses make it impossible for people to stay present in their lives. They make everyday tasks into huge challenges so when someone has to deal with a lot of little tasks everyday one can become very overwhelmed. Staying present in their lives becomes a very hard thing for people to do when they are preoccupied with little tasks that become so much bigger.

Imagine living your life with worries and fears. Fixating over what people are thinking and being taken down by the thoughts in your head. That's a hard way to live. Living in the moment completely vanishes because you are living in the past or the present. It's a hard life to live.

It's important to show compassion to every human being because you never know what they are going through. It's hard for someone to openly admit they are struggling so by being there for someone you can provide them with a little bit of support to make their day easier. Different people will need different kinds of support so just because one thing doesn't work does not mean you should give up and move on. It's about treating everyone like friends so they feel comfortable and welcomed in this world.

Care for others by:
-Telling people if they need anything you will try your best
-Being friendly
-Offering a listening ear
-Sending little notes of encouragement
-Small acts of kindness
-Giving out hugs
-Respecting boundaries
-Telling people how much they mean to you

Suicide is one of the big topics when it comes to mental health but there is still a huge part of society that has a hard time talking about it. All mental illnesses can lead to suicide and that is a crazy thing. Simply said, show your support to every human being and you'll be able to help prevent people from taking their lives. It's all about being kind to one another. 

Don't forget about yourself. Sometimes we put so much focus on other people and things we forget to check in with how we are doing mentally. It's important to take care of your mental health too! Don't neglect yourself. Every once in a while do a check in to see how you are doing. 

Self-care check-in questions:
-How have I been feeling the past few days on a scale from 1-10?
-Have there been things on my mind that are drowning my thoughts?
-How have I been sleeping recently?
-Am I taking care of my personal needs?
-Do I spend time with positive people?

We all matter so much in this world so stay with us and make the world a kinder place. Care for one another and yourself so that we can strive as a community of human beings.

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This post was inspired and written in dedication to Elissa. She reached out to a few other bloggers and myself to tell us about how important the topic of staying is in relationship to suicide. I was honored that she gave me the chance to help spread the message. I admire that she put all this together to get her message out! If you take a look at her blog, Letters to Jayna, you will find other works like this one as well as Elissa's story!

Monday, September 11, 2017

MONDAYS MATTER


Monday.

I know that a lot of people are not a huge fan of Monday because after a fun weekend no one is ready for the hustle of the week to come but Mondays are important! Without the proper attitude on Monday, the rest of your week will be lousy. Mondays need to be started off positively just like you need to start your mornings.

After the unhealthy habits of the weekend, Mondays are like a reset day. You can erase all the bad habits and start over on Monday but the first day of the week can really make or break the rest of the days to come. Mondays are the start of my fitness and health week. After getting active rest on Saturday and Sunday I make sure to start Mondays with a powerful workout and healthy eating habits!

If you are motivated to do good things on Monday you will be motivated to do good things the rest of the week!

Start off Monday with good habits that will carry on for the rest of the week. Whatever your goals are for the week to come start them on Monday. I can not stress how important it is to start your week with good habits.

Let's say you started off your Monday eating horrid foods as well as not working out. On Tuesday you'll feel less motivated to make good habits because you'll feel like you have already messed up what you thought might be a perfect week. So, when you get to Friday, your week will have been wasted and your goals will remain uncompleted.

This is why we need to make good choices the very first day of the week! So that you can feel powerful and inspired to reach your goals! This doesn't only apply to fitness and health matters, by the way! You can apply this Monday mindset to school and other things going on in your life.

The key to being motivated on Monday is knowing that Monday is the foundation for the rest of your week!

A good Monday equals a good week! I get excited for Mondays because it's a clean slate with lots of opportunities. Mondays to me are really no longer a dreadful day. I actually kind of like Mondays because I have redefined what they mean. They use to be a day I didn't like because nothing would ever seem to go right but now because I have a more positive mindset they aren't so bad.

Find ways to do good things on Monday and you will start to see how much better your week will become! It's all about a positive mindset on Monday and making good choices right from the get-go! This is why Mondays are so very important! 

Tuesday, September 5, 2017

Wild Fires Columbia Gorge

I am about 60 miles from the Eagle Creek fire that is happening in Oregon and ashes upon ashes are falling down. It's crazy to think I am 60 miles away and the winds are blowing us little ashes to remind us of what is burning. The air outside is musky and smells of smoke. The sun is blocked by ashes and reflects orange light. Gray and orange are everywhere.

It makes my heart melt to think that the gorge I grew up hiking in has been touched by tremendous amounts of fire. What will it look like when I return? I imagine that the waterfalls will look sad without the trees that had once surrounded them. Gray and black ashes will be forever embedded in the soil. Beautiful land is being touched by something so powerful. It brings tears to my eyes to think of all that is being burned to the ground.

I only pray that the fire will be taken care of soon. I don't have many words just many worries and sorrow. 

Monday, August 28, 2017

GET EXCITED ABOUT MONDAYS ON MY BLOG

















Motivation Monday! Movement Monday! Mindfulness Monday! Metabolism Monday! Get Motivation on Monday on Simply Me!

Mondays on Simply Me will now be focused on health and fitness! The surprise is out!

For the longest time, I have dreamed about being able to inspire people to live a healthy lifestyle. I use to think the only way I was able to help people become healthy was to get a degree in nutrition or become a fitness coach but I have realized that's wrong. I don't need a degree to inspire people to make healthy choices and I most definitely do not need a degree to be an inspiration to others. I can inspire others by sharing my story and providing the motivation that others need to start making better choices when it comes to health and fitness.

Inspiration and motivation are two of the most essential things when it comes to accomplishing goals. However, inspiration and motivation are also two of the hardest things to keep accountable for. It can be difficult to be motivated to find inspiration and it can also be a challenge to be inspired to be motivated about health and fitness.

With that being said, I am here to help. I want to be able to provide others with the inspiration and motivation to make choices that their bodies will love.

Starting August of 2017 you will find inspirational and motivational fitness and health related posts most Mondays. At least two Mondays a month there will be an inspirational or motivational post. My intention is to add fitness and health to my blog but not overflow it with only that.

To help you get as excited as I am about this change I made a short and sweet promo video which you can check out above! I would love feedback on what kind of posts you'd like to see and on what you think! I hope you are as excited about this as I am! Let's start getting our Monday health and fitness muse on!

Thursday, August 24, 2017

List of Little Things #25-46


25. Making new nail polish colors
26. Getting sunshine
27. Staying up late
28. Cracking knuckles
29. Riverdale and The Night Shift
30. Zumba and U-Jam playlists
31. Alexia and Family
32. Laurens Burritos
33. Sprinting exercises
34. Sleeping in TOO late
35. Talking on the phone with EV
36. Watching the Solar eclipse
37. Signing up for Fall Term
38. Seeing blogger friends start college!
39. Sunsets
40. Ice water
42. Fitness photo shoots
42. Watermelon
43. Deep conversations with my family
44. AGT on Tuesdays
45. Being able to relax
46. Working on a surprise for the blog

Thursday, August 17, 2017

Coffee Guy

Coffee trickled down the floor of the bus. It moved in rhythm with the speed the bus was going as it drenched the bottom of my bag with bittersweet goodness. Peacefully my seat mate slept through the whole ride and only noticed his coffee intoxicated bag when he got off.

We exchanged glances and as he was about to pull his eyes away from me I kept those eyes on me, "Did you get coffee spilled on your bag too?"
"I did, you probably have more of it on your bag than I do." He said as he took a headphone out.
Looking at the bottom of his bag and mine I said, "I'm sure I do."

I watched his zombie-like figure walk to the cafeteria to hunt down breakfast. He sat down as I grabbed napkins from the cafe to clean the mess off my bag and I saw him out of the corner of my eyes. He sat down, put a headphone back in, and ate at 8:37 in the morning. I walked away wishing I could convince myself to walk back to him and say hello.

There was a reason I didn't walk back and say hello.

I saw him leaning against the window of the train. Scruffy, no hoodie, headphones, a familiar face. I smile twitched on my face when I saw his broken and beat up phone in his hand, it was him. It was him. I had seen him 3 times on the bus/train. This was my chance.

He got off at a stop that wasn't mine but I found myself walking off the train with him. I followed him to where I thought the bus was. When he turned around we made eye contact and I walked up to him.

"You go to my school, right?" I asked.
"Yeah." He said sleepily. 
"Weren't you on the bus when the coffee incident happened?"
He looked confused, "I drink coffee... yes?"
I laughed at the early morning confusion, "No I mean you were sitting next to me when the girl behind us spilled coffee over the floor? That's how I know you I think?" I knew that was how.
A spark flew to his brain, "Oh! That's right. It got all over!"

We shared a few laughs in the light of early day as we touched a few get-to-know-you subjects. Before I knew it I had obtained his number. Name Coffee. He put his first name and coffee as the last in my phone. Coffee because that is how I know him. As of now.

One day, I saw him sitting with his laptop at school. When I sat down next to him he closed his laptop and moved to face me. Taken back by the attention, I smiled tensely. We talked until his bus arrived and when it came he got up said his goodbyes. A gentle two squeezes on my shoulder telling me he will see me later.

How I miss those hazel eyes and soft touch of yours.

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This is a small true story that I found in my drafts that was yelling at me to post it. For those of you wondering, yes, this is a true story. I fell in love with the story of how I met this person. It was the most romantic story I have ever been a part of. Even though things didn't work out with Coffee and I I learned a lot through the experience and got writing inspiration from something as bittersweet as coffee. For that, I will be forever thankful!

Coffee, dark chocolate and life are three bittersweet things that I love.

Friday, August 11, 2017

Forget The Boys



Start a Relationship with Yourself! Did you know that being in a relationship can be much more rewarding than being in a relationship with someone else? There are so many reasons that being in a relationship with yourself is the ultimate way to go! But how does one start a relationship with themselves? To put it simply you have to start treating yourself better. This means paying attention to yourself as well as being more positive towards who you are. Like every relationship, you will have struggles but you will make it out stronger than before!

FORGET ABOUT THE MEN.
The first thing I had to do when I started a relationship with myself is forget about the men.* I was so obsessed with finding the one a few months ago that I forgot I could make myself happier than anyone could ever make me. I pushed aside the fantasies and started focusing more on how I can make myself happy. Of course, I still go around looking at pretty boys but I am not obsessive with my romantic fantasies. I advise anyone who is starting a relationship with themselves to put all eyes on themselves. 

If guys ask if I am an available date candidate I simply say no. I'm not single because I am in a relationship with myself. Once you feel confident about being in a relationship with yourself and the concept isn't as bizarre to you go ahead and tell people you're in a relationship with yourself. This line sounds very sophisticated. 
*or guys or boys. I feel like there is a huge difference between boys, guys, and men. However, they are all pretty dumb at times. Let's be honest girls!

START TREATING YOURSELF BETTER.
You are now dating yourself. So treat yourself well and go on some dates! Going on dates with yourself is an essential element to growing in a relationship with yourself. Just like going on dates with other people help you to get to know the other person better, going on dates with yourself will help you get familiar with yourself. If you commit to learning about yourself while on these dates.

At first, it might be a little weird to go to a coffee shop with yourself and call it a date but I can promise you it will become less and less awkward as you start to do this more often. You can go to the park, on a walk, to lunch, or to coffee and call it a date! As long as you are having fun being with yourself, you're all good!

ACCEPT WHO YOU ARE.
Now that you have devoted your time and attention to yourself start accepting who you are as a person. accepting yourself is all about being comfortable with yourself. This is done by spending time with yourself.

If you are feeling unmotivated there are lots of cute little pins on Pinterest about self-love. This is a super cute way to be inspired and motivated to love who you are. You can check out the board I started HERE.


GIVE YOURSELF COMPLIMENTS.
Just like you would in any kind of relationship you need to give out compliments! I like to compliment myself on things I have done well and things I like about myself. If you are as dorky as I am you can leave cute little messages and notes that remind you of how wonderful you are around the house or your room! What is important to remember is that you are worthy of compliments. Give them out to yourself just like you would to an individual you like, remember this is all about you and learning to love who you are!

Example compliments to give yourself: You're a brilliantly talented cutie! That outfit you are wearing is super cute! You're so smart! I love the way you think! I like who you are as a person!

LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF.
Falling in love with yourself can be just as hard as falling in love with someone else. It takes time and patients. Loving yourself is one of the biggest challenges you will ever come across but once you learn to love yourself you will never go back. Give yourself compliments and start to accept who you are as a person. Loving yourself is a huge part of being in a relationship with yourself. When you love yourself in a relationship you can grow more.

I can't tell you how much I have enjoyed being in a relationship with myself. There is something so freeing about it that I really love and I have also become more confident in who I am as a person because of my journey. To anyone who is thinking about growing in their relationship with themselves, go for it. You won't regret trying it out. Give yourself a chance just like I have!

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